Dementia Assessments – What Usually Happens and How to Prepare

This blog is for general support only. It does not replace medical advice. Please speak to your GP if you’re unsure.

Being referred to a memory clinic or dementia assessment can feel frightening — not just for the person attending, but for their partner or family as well.

This guide explains what usually happens, how to prepare gently, and how to get the most out of the appointment — whether you're attending alone or with someone you care about.

What is a dementia or memory clinic?

Memory clinics are NHS services run by specialist teams — often including doctors, nurses, psychologists and support workers. They assess how someone is coping with memory, thinking and daily tasks.

They’re not just there to “diagnose dementia.” Many people who attend don’t have dementia — but might benefit from support, monitoring or peace of mind.

Why might someone be referred?

Your GP might suggest a memory clinic if you (or someone close to you) have noticed changes such as:

• Repeating questions more than usual
• Getting lost or disoriented in familiar places
• Forgetting important dates or recent events
• Struggling with planning or following steps (e.g. cooking)
• Changes in mood, withdrawal, or unusual frustration

It’s not about catching you out — it’s about understanding what’s going on and what can help.

What usually happens during the assessment?

You may attend one appointment or several, depending on the clinic. In general, expect the following:

• Initial questions about your memory, mood, sleep, daily routine, and any concerns
• Background history about physical health, medications and past issues
• Basic thinking tests — these may involve drawing a clock, remembering short lists, or answering orientation questions
• Sometimes a brain scan may be arranged (e.g. CT or MRI)

“It’s not a school test. There’s no pass or fail. These checks help professionals understand how your brain is functioning, and whether support might help.”

How long does it take?

Some assessments take an hour, others are split across two or three visits. You can bring a trusted person with you — in fact, many clinics encourage it.

Having someone close to you present can:

• Help with giving context or background
• Take notes if you feel overwhelmed
• Offer emotional support and reduce anxiety

Should I be worried about a diagnosis?

It’s normal to feel nervous. But remember:

• Many people are assessed but don’t meet the criteria for dementia
• Even if memory is affected, it could be due to medication, infection, low mood or stress
• If dementia is diagnosed, knowing early helps access better support and plan ahead

What should I bring to the appointment?

To help the clinic get a full picture, bring:

• A list of current medications (including herbal and over-the-counter)
• Any hearing aids or glasses if used
• Notes about any recent changes you’ve noticed
• A family member or friend if possible

What questions might I want to ask?

Here are some suggestions to open up helpful conversation:

• “Is there anything we should be keeping track of at home?”
• “Can you explain what type of memory seems affected?”
• “What happens next if the results are unclear?”
• “Are there local services or groups we can link with?”

Don’t worry if you forget to ask everything — many clinics will send follow-up letters, and you can always speak to your GP again afterwards.

What happens after the assessment?

You may be:

• Given a follow-up appointment or letter with results
• Referred for blood tests or scans
• Offered monitoring or regular check-ins
• Linked with a dementia nurse, support group or social care

Many people find relief after attending — either because concerns were eased, or because they now have clearer support in place.